5 frameworks I use to live a better life.
The 8pm rule.
I never make important decisions after 8pm.
(or 3-4 days before my period).
This tends to be when I make my worst decisions. It tends to be when my feelings are the least related to actual reality & I sway towards decisions that my future self won’t be grateful for.
So if a choice or decision is important I either make it before this or I delay it.
Example: I don’t make big business decisions in the evening or the week prior to my period. Most of them can wait & the outcome is far better.
I also decide on my diet before the 3-4 days before my period. I make a commitment to it and then stick to it 100% rather than only committing 98% and giving yourself that 2% to convince yourself you do deserve XYZ.
10 by 30 rule
If you want to get better at something or form a habit break it down into something you can do for 10 mins a day. Then commit to doing it for 30 days.
Want to get better at press ups? Practice for 10mins a day. Want to get better at French? Practice for 10mins a day. Want to improve your latte art? Practice for 10mins a day.
Never miss twice
pretty simple.. If you mess up one day get yourself back the next day.
Slip ups are inevitable but how you respond has more impact than the slip up itself, commit to getting back on track the next day.
It’s not falling in the river that drowns you.. it’s staying submerged.
The ‘oh actually’ method
Just start, whatever it is- commit to the smallest step.
Thinking about going for a run? Commit to putting on your shoes and running to the end of the road. Once you do that you usually think ‘oh actually’ I will keep going round the next street.. before you know it you’ve nailed your run.
*Apply to all areas of life.*
Starting is the hardest part.
The reframe:
What positive can I find in this situation?
There is almost always a positive to be found if you look for it.
Your life will be much more enjoyable if you start consciously looking for positives.
This is one of the key things people get from working with me.. I know they come for the fat loss but this is so much more impactful.. and it all links…
It’s so much easier to make positive changes when you’re in the right mood to.
& your mood is so heavily influenced by how you respond to what goes on around you - do you let some one cutting you off in the car mean you turn up for work in a bad mood, snap at colleagues and generally have a shitty day or do you tell yourself they probably have somewhere important to be & move on.
Do you let missing the train mean you’re rushed and angry all day or do you use that time to listen to more of the podcast and then choose that rather than be late and stressed you’ll just be late and let go of it.
This mindset impacts your food choices too.. and more broadly your enjoyment of life, how you show up around others and consequently the impact you have on them.
What impact do you want to have on others? do you want that to be positive or negative - your energy is contagious make sure you are a radiator not a drain!
You will get back what you put out,
Leave people better than you found them.