Read this if you’re injured, missed out on an opportunity, going through a break up or didn’t get the job…
Read this if you’re injured, missed out on an opportunity, going through a break up or didn’t get the job…
I’m going to try to articulate this as best I can because it was such a huge mindset shift for me.
I remember exactly where I was when I had this realisation.
I was sitting on a delayed train in the Lake District.
and I suddenly had this realisation that I wouldn’t never go back and do a PhD. I had always left this door open in my mind. That at some point I would go back and do it.
And in that moment I had this really obvious realisation that I wouldnt be able to do everything. That there would always be more things I want to do than time or energy to do them.
I do realise this sounds SO obvious but I don’t think I had ever really thought about it.
You might be thinking.. why is this in anyway relevant to injury, heart break and not getting the job you applied for…
Well it’s shifted the way I think about opportunities. It’s always disappointing when you miss out on an opportunity you wanted whether thats the job, the relationship, the event, the ability to exercise the way you want to.
But when you think about the unlimited opportunities there are and the hugely limited time and energy you have to appreciate them you realise that missing out on one job, one relationship, one event, training for a period of time.. or whatever it is really isn’t the end of the world and you now have that time and energy to do other things.
There is so much to do and you won’t have time to do it all. Waste less time on the opportunities you missed out on and focus more on what you’re going to do with the gift of that time and energy.
I hope I’ve been able to articulate this well because I find it so motivating and it allows you to turn constraints into positives and forces you to ask the question - what else can I do with this time?
Wow Emma, I love this sentiment. As a fellow ADHD'er the opportunity for creativity and passion and excitement for new challenges is pretty endless. But my time certainly isn't endless and I'm going to think of it through the lense you've described. I hope this doesn't come across as condescending given I'm probably a decade older than you, but you seem truly wise beyond your years!
I find this v helpful and i'd never thought about it before!!